“He looked like a nice guy.”

I can’t express how often this sentence was said when people have told me the stories of their trauma at the hands of an abusive partner.

How does someone “look” like a nice guy?

Never ever go on that whole “looking like a nice guy” bit…..it means next to nothing.

How someone IS is based on how they ARE…their actions and behavior.

If someone is contemptuous and nasty to servers, coworkers, family…..PAY ATTENTION.

Pacific Palisades Man Fatally Shot 25-Year-Old Ex-Girlfriend in West Hollywood, Then Killed Himself | KTLA